Ask a child how to stop a war, and you get a simple response... "STOP FIGHTING".
Ask an army general how to stop a war, and you get responses that never crosses your mind. So complicated. That's a fact.
Of course life is very complicated. But the fact is life is so simple you just have to live it. But our surroundings make it so complicated and on top of that we make it so complicated by making decisions that will add on to more decisions to make.
I'm a simple man. Each morning I wake up, I always ask myself... "Will it be a happy day... or will it be a crappy day???". Of course my answer will always be the former but somehow, somewhere, sometime in the middle of the day, the latter will always creep out of nowhere. And the worst thing is you cannot help it but accept that it will be a crappy day. It can happen early in the morning when you are standing in sardine packed train full of people who somehow forgot to have shower when they woke up, OR in the middle of the day when someone sneezes in a lift full of people, OR at the end of the day when your boss tells you..."I need you to do overtime, no excuses, management decision". Life sucks right???
But it is entirely up to you on how you take it. Shit happens, but it entirely depends on you whether you want the smell to affect you or not. I will always, or at least try to go for the choice that will make me smile.
For example... sardine packed train and standing next to a person who didn't have shower... at least i had mine and i know i don't smell as bad as that person (too bad if you didn't have shower yourself). Lift full of people and someone sneazes... at least I'm not the only one who is gonna breathe in air full of germs. Overtime after work... extra money at the end of the month. That's how I manage to get thru the day with a smile on my face and it makes me happy at the end of the day when i reach home and the Missus ask... "How's your day dear?" and i can say "It's crappy but I'm ok".
It takes practice to do this and it all boils down to the choices you make all the time. You always have two choices in life, followed by another two, then another two and so on and so forth. The most important thing is make a choice that will make you happy, although it makes others unhappy. But who can blame you. I believe, in life, to be a happy person, you have to be selfish. I must admit, I have made decisions in my life that make me happy and others unhappy and wants to beat the crap out of me. But that's me.
My point is, you decide your life, not your boss, not the person next to you, not even your partner in life. The decision you make is yours and no one can take credit for your happiness (vice versa you cannot blame anyone for your sadness as well). Always keep in mind, your happiness is up to you. You decide if you want to be happy or not.
Cheers for now.
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Saturday, October 20, 2007
Excuse Me....
Forgive me for the title.... I'm not trying to ask you guys who's reading this to excuse myself, it's just something that I think should be brought to your attention.
I was in a shopping complex this afternoon and it so happens I was in a mood to look for a book to read (once I've finished the current book that I am reading right now). So, there I was in a bookshop happily looking around when i reached the Fantasy section. One of the books there caught my attention and I squated to read the summary at the back of the book. As I was happily reading, while squating, two pairs of legs appeared next to me. Then I heard a girl just sigh and doing some clicking noise. Obviously she was trying to tell me that she wanted to pass through. And the boyfriend was next to her as well, making clicking noise and sighing. Of course the logical thing for me to do was to move aside and let them through. But I'm not the most logical person in the world, at least in the current world we live in.
So there I was, still squatting and trying to enjoy the wonderful harmony of sighing and clicking noise from this couple. I had a smile on my face. I could feel their eyes piercing through me. So being me, I stood up, and looked at both of them. I think they were pissed. Do I care...No... So i just stood there and instead of saying sorry, I just said, you could have said "Excuse Me" right? Didn't they teach you that in school. So the girl said sorry, then excuse me, while the boy just looked at me with the sort of defeated look and said excuse as well.
What's happening to the old values that were taught to us when we were young. Saying "thank you", "excuse me", "you're welcome", "please"...etc... Don't people practice this anymore. People in general seldom say these words and instead just push their way through a crowded train/bus, not saying thank you when someone did them a favour, even up to the point of demanding for something instead of asking nicely.
Excuse Me for saying this, but something is really wrong with the society nowadays. We don't stop long enough to enjoy what is around us and forget the purpose to enjoy what is around us. We are too caught up in ourselves that we forget to remember that people around us have feelings as well.
So I challenge you... Say "Excuse Me" the next time you want to pass through a crowded area. People will definitely make way for you. Ask and it will be given to you...even the Bible teaches you that.
I was in a shopping complex this afternoon and it so happens I was in a mood to look for a book to read (once I've finished the current book that I am reading right now). So, there I was in a bookshop happily looking around when i reached the Fantasy section. One of the books there caught my attention and I squated to read the summary at the back of the book. As I was happily reading, while squating, two pairs of legs appeared next to me. Then I heard a girl just sigh and doing some clicking noise. Obviously she was trying to tell me that she wanted to pass through. And the boyfriend was next to her as well, making clicking noise and sighing. Of course the logical thing for me to do was to move aside and let them through. But I'm not the most logical person in the world, at least in the current world we live in.
So there I was, still squatting and trying to enjoy the wonderful harmony of sighing and clicking noise from this couple. I had a smile on my face. I could feel their eyes piercing through me. So being me, I stood up, and looked at both of them. I think they were pissed. Do I care...No... So i just stood there and instead of saying sorry, I just said, you could have said "Excuse Me" right? Didn't they teach you that in school. So the girl said sorry, then excuse me, while the boy just looked at me with the sort of defeated look and said excuse as well.
What's happening to the old values that were taught to us when we were young. Saying "thank you", "excuse me", "you're welcome", "please"...etc... Don't people practice this anymore. People in general seldom say these words and instead just push their way through a crowded train/bus, not saying thank you when someone did them a favour, even up to the point of demanding for something instead of asking nicely.
Excuse Me for saying this, but something is really wrong with the society nowadays. We don't stop long enough to enjoy what is around us and forget the purpose to enjoy what is around us. We are too caught up in ourselves that we forget to remember that people around us have feelings as well.
So I challenge you... Say "Excuse Me" the next time you want to pass through a crowded area. People will definitely make way for you. Ask and it will be given to you...even the Bible teaches you that.
Sunday, October 7, 2007
Fasting Month
I have sat in front of my computer for so many nights and i have never written anything simply because I do not know what to write about. I guess that's what you call a bloggers block!!!
So here I am, in front of the computer screen trying to figure out what to write but i simply couldn't. Then it suddenly came to my mind, it's best to write when you are intoxicated, cause when you are "there" whatever comes to your mind is the truth. So here I am right in front of the laptop and I still couldn't think of what to write (and I have just finished 1.5 litres of wine).
I have just read an email from my good friend Dass, or as he would like people to know him, Jesu, about the Ramadhan month. Ramadhan is like Lent Season for the Catholics, for some of you, you might not be familiar with this term. where they have to fast for at least 30 days (some of them fast everyday for half a day to make it 15days to feel good). Anyway, what I'm trying to say is I fear that the "Beautiful" month of Ramadhan is being too commercialised. The focus is no longer on the purpose of fasting but more on what you can eat for breaking fast. We see so many hotels offering Ramadhan buffet that cost you at least RM45++, the most expensive by far is RM99++ by one of the 5 Star Hotel at Jalan Sultan Ismail. It takes you away from the main purpose which is the main reason why Muslims are fasting.
I fear so much that the month of Ramadhan will be Christmas all over again, where the main focus will be Father Christmas, instead of the birth of the Son of God. I do hope that the Muslims will realise this sooner than later, instead of pointing the fingers on "Capitalist" later when it is too late. Islam is such a beautiful religion (mind you I'm a Catholic) to be spoiled in this way. They (the Muslims) are in my prayers everynight.
Anyway, that's just my thought when my blood is filled with Bleu 1995 Merlot Vin de' Pays de Oc (RM89.90 at Hero Supermarket, only 3 branches at the whole of Klang 'God Damn' Valley). It's wine by the way, and it's so sweet that i decide to call it the happy wine.
Ok, i think I'll stop now, before i continue on rambling about other stuffs, which might just get me into ISA (Intenal Securities Act) because of OSA (Official Securities Act). That's definitely going to be my next topic when I do my stand up comedy, if I ever have the guts.
Cheers with 20 bottles of beer...
So here I am, in front of the computer screen trying to figure out what to write but i simply couldn't. Then it suddenly came to my mind, it's best to write when you are intoxicated, cause when you are "there" whatever comes to your mind is the truth. So here I am right in front of the laptop and I still couldn't think of what to write (and I have just finished 1.5 litres of wine).
I have just read an email from my good friend Dass, or as he would like people to know him, Jesu, about the Ramadhan month. Ramadhan is like Lent Season for the Catholics, for some of you, you might not be familiar with this term. where they have to fast for at least 30 days (some of them fast everyday for half a day to make it 15days to feel good). Anyway, what I'm trying to say is I fear that the "Beautiful" month of Ramadhan is being too commercialised. The focus is no longer on the purpose of fasting but more on what you can eat for breaking fast. We see so many hotels offering Ramadhan buffet that cost you at least RM45++, the most expensive by far is RM99++ by one of the 5 Star Hotel at Jalan Sultan Ismail. It takes you away from the main purpose which is the main reason why Muslims are fasting.
I fear so much that the month of Ramadhan will be Christmas all over again, where the main focus will be Father Christmas, instead of the birth of the Son of God. I do hope that the Muslims will realise this sooner than later, instead of pointing the fingers on "Capitalist" later when it is too late. Islam is such a beautiful religion (mind you I'm a Catholic) to be spoiled in this way. They (the Muslims) are in my prayers everynight.
Anyway, that's just my thought when my blood is filled with Bleu 1995 Merlot Vin de' Pays de Oc (RM89.90 at Hero Supermarket, only 3 branches at the whole of Klang 'God Damn' Valley). It's wine by the way, and it's so sweet that i decide to call it the happy wine.
Ok, i think I'll stop now, before i continue on rambling about other stuffs, which might just get me into ISA (Intenal Securities Act) because of OSA (Official Securities Act). That's definitely going to be my next topic when I do my stand up comedy, if I ever have the guts.
Cheers with 20 bottles of beer...
Saturday, September 15, 2007
The Beginning
I have a few friends who blog, and they have been encouraging me to write something for them, even though I don't think I'm that good of a writer.
Maybe, sometimes, I can talk, and I have opinions that most people don't agree with, but hey, that's me right. But maybe I should start writing, and see if you guys enjoy reading it, not that I have anything interesting to write except for my simple and happy life, which most people don't seem to have nowadays.
Most seem to think that life is a 100m dash to the finishing line but fail to realize that it is actually a never ending marathon that will end when you breath your last breath. Even then, I don't think your life will entirely end, but let's keep that for another discussion.
My point is this - The happiest people in life do not have the best of everything, they make the best of everything. Be happy, live simply, love generously, care deeply, and most importantly, trust in the lord.
Not bad for a beginner huh!!!
Maybe, sometimes, I can talk, and I have opinions that most people don't agree with, but hey, that's me right. But maybe I should start writing, and see if you guys enjoy reading it, not that I have anything interesting to write except for my simple and happy life, which most people don't seem to have nowadays.
Most seem to think that life is a 100m dash to the finishing line but fail to realize that it is actually a never ending marathon that will end when you breath your last breath. Even then, I don't think your life will entirely end, but let's keep that for another discussion.
My point is this - The happiest people in life do not have the best of everything, they make the best of everything. Be happy, live simply, love generously, care deeply, and most importantly, trust in the lord.
Not bad for a beginner huh!!!
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